After spending a decade privately compiling information about my relinquishment, adoption and birth family, I created a search team to help me look at my search with new eyes. This team has uncovered stacks of information from various sources.
- Start Here
- Why No Apologies?
- The Adoptee Survival Guide
- DNA Testing
- Recommended Documentaries
- Ohio Adoptees
- Adoption-Reconstruction Stage Theory
- Contact Lynn
- Adoptees and Boundaries
- The Future of Adoption
- Speaking Engagements
- The Secret Identity of an Adopted Child
- Ghost Kingdom
- Seven Core Issues of Adoption
Saturday, July 2, 2016
Tending to my Own Garden by Seeking My Roots
However, I still do not know the man who fathered me. I know quite a bit about him through my DNA, interviews and stories I have learned of over the years, and my Non-ID. I just need that special clue that will set me in the right direction. That is where you all come in!
It's hard for me to ask for help; however, I am no longer alone. I have a whole adoption community out there that want to help me and for that, I am very grateful.
Sometimes you have to be realistic and accept that even though certain secrets and lies are old --- really old -- family members many times die with their secrets. DNA testing is helping so many people, but with my father being a recent immigrant to the country, I don't yet have a cousin match to identify my paternal family. (Hint: If you want to help an adoptee or others separated from family, spend the $79.00 to test at Ancestry).
There are people who are alive right now who know my story. I have been advised by one of them to tend to my own garden and just be happy. (I always find it humorous when a non-adopted person in one breath is bragging about her own genealogy, but then in the next breaths assumes that if I am looking for the truth about my ancestors, I must not be happy).
Some refuse to reveal the story. Others don’t know they have information that could be helpful. That is where this graphic comes in. This graphic was created by an adoptee who is part of my team who has walked this path before me. Her support has been invaluable.
My hope is to reach a wider audience with these graphics and generate some leads.
Thank you in advance for sharing this blog and/or the graphics!