tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950217803502790967.post3431964945197463815..comments2024-03-13T03:27:17.972-07:00Comments on Lynn Grubb: Spike of My Little Pony -- an Adoptee in Search of His RootsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950217803502790967.post-28175925602712786382015-07-21T08:18:11.462-07:002015-07-21T08:18:11.462-07:00Thank you for your thoughts, Yan.
"THIS. ...Thank you for your thoughts, Yan. <br /><br />"THIS. -----> "Now that I can see some of my own traits mirrored back, I understand better the place I carved for myself in my adoptive family. The thing is, I don't really fit in either one very well. It's not seamless, at least. " YES!Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15575558244573598420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950217803502790967.post-56123992689847147972015-07-21T05:18:22.419-07:002015-07-21T05:18:22.419-07:00I wish the dominant narrative weren't so "...I wish the dominant narrative weren't so "easy" for anyone not living it.<br /><br />I think Spike's story could be really great. I imagine there are adoptees who search and find that they don't really feel they fit in with their natural families, but who do feel they fit with their adoptive families, and I'd hate to undermine that feeling. I would think that you could feel that way and still feel better about knowing your origins.<br /><br />The problem with making that the story told in a children's cartoon, though, is that you're right -- that's what we, as adoptees, are told should be the case. It sounds as though Spike's natural "family" is portrayed as rather awful, unethical, possibly criminal but at least unfeeling and destructive. Doesn't that sound like a lot of adoptive parent/social worker narratives? Ones that justify "saving" children from their "horrible" original circumstances? The one that says that adoption is "better for" adoptees?<br /><br />For me, my half-completed reunion has made me figure out how I fit into both families. Now that I can see some of my own traits mirrored back, I understand better the place I carved for myself in my adoptive family. The thing is, I don't really fit in either one very well. It's not seamless, at least. I have a long history with my adoptive family. They know all my stories, all my quirks, and my entire path. My natural family (or, rather, the side of it that I'm in contact with) doesn't know any of that, but they held a place for me and we relate to one another rather easily.<br /><br />Poor Spike.Yanhttp://www.legallyfictionalreality.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com