Monday, May 21, 2018

To my Friend Whose Message to Her Birth Mom Went Unanswered


You did it! You reached the goal line.  You outlived the laws that said you couldn’t have the information.  

You are the Queen of your own life because you didn’t back down.  

You kept the faith.

You didn’t forget the woman who gave you life.  You knew what you needed and you pushed through. 

You supported the person in your life, also adopted, on his journey. 

He supported you.  You had each other and that is no small thing. 

You confided in me.  You trusted me, a complete stranger you met on the internet, to help you walk through this journey with you. 

You cried and you were scared.  And I want you to know that I see you as brave. 

I am sad that your message to your mother went unanswered.  I am frustrated for you that she deleted her Facebook page.  

I want to call her up myself and say, “Look what you are missing out on!”.  You have a beautiful daughter, beautiful grand kids and a great granddaughter!

It sounds like she is not in a place to acknowledge her place in your life. Sadly, I’ve heard this story before . . . but my message to you is this . . . don’t give up hope now!  

You’ve waited this long. .  .you can wait a little while longer while your original mother digests this new reality.  

Maybe a reunion is not in the cards . . . or maybe she just needs time.  

Either way, you are a wonderful human being with people who love you and want to be in your life right now. 

I don’t wish any more pain to be brought your way.  Acceptance by birth family does not have the last word on your worth as a human being.

You are enough.

And sometimes just knowing is enough.

Thank you for trusting me to be part of your journey over many, many years.  I wish you peace and happiness always.

Your friend,
Lynn

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