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- Why No Apologies?
- The Adoptee Survival Guide
- DNA Testing
- Recommended Documentaries
- Ohio Adoptees
- Adoption-Reconstruction Stage Theory
- Contact Lynn
- Adoptees and Boundaries
- The Future of Adoption
- Speaking Engagements
- The Secret Identity of an Adopted Child
- Ghost Kingdom
- Seven Core Issues of Adoption
Monday, March 4, 2013
What's Your Story?
He wanted to know her story (even though he already knew it)
He didn't try and change her
He didn't tell her how to live her life better or differently
He just accepted her where she was right then
He cared about her story
As I lunched with old friends after Mass, I looked around the table and realized that we can know people for years but never know their story.
Adoption came up in the conversation because my friend is a widower and wanted his wife to adopt the kids she is now mother to and is raising with him. They were baffled by the changing of birth certificates (as it would wipe out the original mother's name which they thought was unacceptable). In addition, the social security for the children would be lost.
Another piece of the adoption puzzle I only understood by hearing their story.
I was explaining to these same friends about the current adoptee rights bills and my upcoming meeting with our representative regarding opening birth certificates to the adoptees who have no access.
For the first time, I was able to confidentally explain my story and why this was important to me and how people outside adoption do not really understand what it is like to actually "live" adoption in the same way that adopted people do.
What's your story?