Lynn Grubb

Photo credit: Adoptionlearningpartners.org If I had a quarter for everytime somebody said the statement, "My ______ is not interested in searching" I could go on a nice vacation. Somebody said it to me me this week.  I cannot remember who but I remember it being said and it causes my mind to swirl with emotions and begin to shut down. I react to this statement viscerally because I'm sure it could have been said about me at some point in my life. And on top of that, I feel that this statement is a way of  negating anything I ever said to that person about my own adoption search, anything that they have ever heard me say about adoption or read that adoptees experience being adopted -- and even everything they heard from their adopted friend/cousin/niece/nephew/grand child) who doesn't want to search gets thrown into the box.  Then the box is labeled " Adoptee who Doesn't Feel Like You. " It may sound dramatic and you may accuse me of over-reac...

The yellow is my 11% Irish :) You've seen the commercials . . . . . .she didn't know she was Native American . . . .he didn't realize he was Italian . . . . . .but what the commercials don't tell you is that by simply paying $99.00 and shipping your spit off to Ancestry, you can learn this. . . . . . . . 1.  The name of your biological father that left you were when you were too small to know the story of what really happened. 2.  Your mother gave up a child (your sibling) in the 1970's before you were born and before she married your father. 3.  Your parents never mentioned you were actually adopted. 4.  Friends or neighbors you personally know are actually related to you. 5.  Your father was busy in the 1980's and you have several new siblings to prove it. Ok, all of these situations sound pretty shocking and your first reaction might be, "But I don't want to know!" Fair enough. However, knowing that you have a different b...