It’s O.K. to be a "bitter and angry" adoptee (when seeking support)
The title of this blog is tongue-in-cheek, because so many people new to online support groups (especially adoptees like me, who also become adoptive parents) ask a very common question in some form or another . . . . .it usually comes about after the person joins an on-line adoption support group and lurks for a bit trying to get a feel for the energy in the room . . .if the energy leans toward the negative (i.e. discussing the negative feelings surrounding being adopted), it is only a matter of time until a comment like this appears in the room: “I am just curious as to why in this support group there are so many bitter and angry adoptees who seem to hate adoption. I loved growing up adopted and had wonderful parents. It makes me very concerned for the child I adopted that there is so much negativity coming from adoptees.” Depending on the room this is posted in, this could invite an onslaught of criticism from the adoptees who are working through the negative aspects o...