The Big Lie: Birth Parent Confidentiality
photo credit: deebright.com Myth: Birth Parents were (are) legally promised confidentiality . A friend of mine who is on the board of the Adoptee Rights Coalition has collected many Birth Parent Surrenders (some from long ago and some more recent) and in none of them is there a "promise" of confidentiality (or anonymity) to the birth parent from her child. There may be a clause that prevents the birth parent from contacting the adoptive family. But the gist of the Birth Parent Surrender has legal terminology that is clear that the parent is no longer the parent under the eyes of the law. Period. No promises are made other than she no longer has any responsibility or rights for said child. I have a copy of the legal surrender that my daughter's birth parent signed. It only takes away rights and does not give her any form of anonymity, confidentiality (other than what is expected in attorney/client privilege) or promises o...