Lynn Grubb

The title of this blog is tongue-in-cheek, because so many people new to online support groups (especially adoptees like me, who also become adoptive parents) ask a very common question in some form or another . . . . .it usually comes about after the person joins an on-line adoption support group and lurks for a bit trying to get a feel for the energy in the room . . .if the energy leans toward the negative (i.e. discussing the negative feelings surrounding being adopted), it is only a matter of time until a comment like this appears in the room: “I am just curious as to why in this support group there are so many bitter and angry adoptees who seem to hate adoption. I loved growing up adopted and had wonderful parents.  It makes me very concerned for the child I adopted that there is so much negativity coming from adoptees.” Depending on the room this is posted in, this could invite an onslaught of criticism from the adoptees who are working through the negative aspects o...

I was searching through a notebook and came across these words.  I don't remember when I jotted them down, but I decided to put them in a meme and use this meme for National Adoption Month on my Facebook page.  Lots of people reacted to it.  Many people commented underneath it as to how they were still too afraid to share they own personal stories of adoption, reunion, loss and gain. I started to look back on my own journey of adoption and how I have progressed from good kid ("well adjusted adoptee") who rarely got in trouble, to the "outspoken, angry, adoptee" I have transformed into. Truth is, I'm not angry today.  It's the beginning of my weekend and I woke up inspired to write. However the misconception is alive and well that adoptees who "speak out" are viewed as angry, and ungrateful for all they have been given.  When really adoptees who speak out should be viewed as brave. And while we are on that topic, here are some other comm...

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: VARIED VOICES FROM ADOPTION COMMUNITY UNITE IN FREE ONLINE EVENT FOR NATIONAL ADOPTION MONTH Tuesday October 20, 2015 (Los Alamos, NM)  Question: What do you get when you bring together adult adoptees with parents by birth and adoption to talk about their relinquishment and adoption experiences, family building practices and views on needed legislative reform?  Answer: Usually an assortment of passionate opinions, raw emotions, misunderstandings and "unfriending" on Facebook. But something different is coming during November, National Adoption Month, this year. Adoptee and former foster parent LeAnne Parsons has teamed up with birth/first mother Ashley Mitchell to assemble an impressive collaboration of speakers for a free online seminar called "Come Climb With Us: the 2015 Adoption Summit Experience." "Our goal is to create an opportunity for anyone, anywhere who is interested in adoption to lean in and listen to c...